DeCiSion To StarT A FaMily

i used to wonder… when would be the best time to start a family? how would i know when i’m ready to be a mommy?

the answer given by most people that i spoke to was “you will never be ready! just get on with it!”  

i was like “it can’t be… there must be something that tells you when you’re ready, maybe a gut feeling or something… perhaps age?”

the usual reply : “you will be ready once you have your baby”

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the pressure builds up with time. every casual conversation would eventually dwell into the topic of “when is your little one coming?” holiday seasons will sing “see your baby next year ya?” i’m sure all these sound very familiar to you.

i even got this in the office pantry one day… can you imagine? we were having lunch at the big table one day with lots of others either sitting around or moving around making drinks and so on… a female colleague in her 50’s out of good intention asked “when do you plan to have a baby? are you trying already?” thanks to that, all eyes fixed on me.

with utter awkwardness, i replied, “errr… maybe next year. i don’t think we’re ready.”

“don’t wait… you should start now... do you actually think it’s that easy to conceive? that once you want it, you’ll get it? you would, if you’re lucky and everything goes well. but what if you turn out to have some problem, if you start early, there’s more time for you to fix the problem. rather than to only seek help 10 years down the road. it’s too late… you’ll be old...”

then who and who started telling me their own set of stories of how NOT easy it is to conceive.

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given all that, we decided to wait after all - for the right time and for us to be ready!  hahahaa...

all that said, i eventually have to agree with them that you will never be ready. trust me, i’m speaking from first hand’s experience! i was full of doubt myself, remember? check out my next posting for the full story!